The above clip is from my daughter’s rehearsal dinner on December 16, 2011. As my husband spoke, I was overcome with gratitude for the kind of father he has been to our children. I am so very blessed. Our kids are so very blessed. I’ve written and spoken extensively on the importance of the father/daughter relationship, but the 2 1/2 minute clip above sums it up more beautifully than any combination of carefully crafted words. The clip provides the answer to many of the concerns Christian parents have when it comes to raising daughters:
How can I raise her to have confidence and see herself through God’s eyes?
How can I model God’s unconditional love to her?
How can I discourage her from dating too young?
When she is old enough to date, how can I encourage her to refuse to settle for anything less than God’s best?
In a culture that bombards her with the message that it’s no big deal to have sex, how can I encourage her to save sex for marriage?
How can I help her guard her heart?
As I filmed my husband’s tribute to our daughter from behind the camera, I couldn’t help but wonder how different this world might look if more little girls had dads who asked them to go on ice cream dates from the preschool to teenage years. And played board games and Barbies with them. And took them on an annual weekend camping trip each year. And reminded them over the years that God appointed them to be the “man in their lives,” and “their protector” and “spiritual leader” until they meet their future husbands. And modeled for them what sort of standard they should have when it comes to choosing a future husband.
I dare say if we had more dads like that, we would see a dramatic decrease in many of the issues that plague our girls today: low self-esteem, eating disorders, negative body image, anxiety, rebelliousness, immodesty, promiscuity, and a desperate, insatiable need for male attention, just to name a few. The remedy for these problems cannot be found in more self-help books and Christian pep talks. The remedy is simple: We need fewer absent fathers and more “sweet-daddy-boy-dates.” We need fewer sad stories and more locket stories.