Since 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter released two years ago, I’ve encouraged both moms and dads to read it and engage in key conversations with their daughters, even though the book is targeted to moms. Now, a new study backs up the tremendous need for dads to step up to the plate and take an active role in talking to their daughters about issues related to today’s sexually promiscuous culture.
CBS.com had this to say about the new study:
NEW YORK, Oct. 4, 2010
Dads: Birds and the Bees Talk Not Just for Sons
New Study Reveals Daughters, Ages 19 to 21, Say Dads Should Do More to Prepare Them for Sex and Dating
Dr. Jennifer Hartstein, child and adolescent psychologist and “Early Show” contributor, joined “Early Show” co-anchor Harry Smith to discuss how important it is for dads to be in on that sometimes awkward, but always beneficial, conversation.
According to Hartstein, having “the talk” early in this day in age is very important.
“We have so much research that supports the fact (that) starting it early and having it continuously protects all our kids, daughters and sons, from making bad decisions in relationships, sexually, posting inappropriate pictures, sexting — all that stuff has to start as early as your kids start talking to you about it,” she said. (Click here to read the entire article.)
If your daughter is approaching middle school (or is already in middle school or older), I would definitely advise dads to look over Conversation #3 and highlight key passages to discuss with their daughters. When a dad speaks up about pressures related to sex, dating, and other issues that can impact his daughter’s reputation (sexting, etc.), he offers a powerful voice in the battle for his daughter’s purity. While the thought of having to broach this topic can be unsettling, the consequences of remaining silent can be far more unsettling in the end. Besides, who better than good ol’ dad to offer his daughter a uniquely male perspective on the topic? It’s a father’s duty to protect his daughter. In fact, I would argue that the most effective birth control available to our daughters is hands down, a thriving father/daughter relationship.